The Company You Keep

It is common knowledge that you are the average of the people you spend your time with, and those people surely are your friends. Choose them wisely as it depends solely on you who you choose to emulate.

It's easy for friends to let you go astray-lead you astray as well, than to drag you into the light. Living in a time when fake friendship is the norm, leaving you with no idea who to trust, when you find one who tells you the hard truth, one who has stuck with you while at your lowest, stick with them, they fuse better than brothers.

What kind of friends do you keep? What kind of friend are you?

In a generation where loyalty is fast losing its value, 'squads' change as soon as you're faced with difficulty, or when they can no longer benefit from the 'friendship'.
"If you want a friend, be one."
If you don't want your squad to leave, then don't leave; a new broom may sweep quickly, but an old one knows all the corners.

Your old friends have stuck with you through all your crap and now you want to leave them? Better be sure you've got some exceptional justifications. The only time you should leave is when they become impediments to your growth or hurdles blocking the path to your goals.

"If you want to go fast go alone, but if you want to go far go with company." Choose friends who will never let you hang dry, but will give parts of themselves to see that you reach safely to your destination, who will wither all the storms with you, and who will uplift you when you feel down. But be sure to reciprocate all these gestures.

The influence your company has on you cannot be overemphasized; you learn to talk, dress, walk, think, and even sound like the people you spend a lot of time with. True friends want to see you thrive- together, but false friends only turn up in good times, leaving at the first sign of trouble.

You have morals and a conscience- trust and use them. If the advice your friends give does not resonate on the same frequency as your conscience, resist please; it will save you lots of trouble, even your life.

We all have friends we don't want to lose, but know when your relationship is toxic and unproductive. Better to break it now than to spend a lifetime lamenting. Know when to be flexible and when to be stubborn. Know what you want and go for it with people who catch your vision.
Do not stay on a sinking ship because you love the crew.


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